One reason why people find it difficult to stay in the present moment is that they don’t understand that their thinking changes in a low mood. Never believe your own thoughts when you are in a low mood otherwise you will frighten yourself with your own negative thinking/imagination. Watch how when the low mood passes your thinking becomes better. Therefore thoughts are not real if they can change with your mood. To quote Shakespeare “There’s nothing good or bad but thinking makes it so”.

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Mindfulness – How to use your Mind Correctly

It’s important to know that our minds can do two things.
1. It can think and
2. It can be aware.
While thinking is essential for day to day living, such as I have to buy milk, leave the house at 7.30am for the 8am train and I must remember to book flights for our sumer holidays, it is the epidemic of over-thinking that causes our stress, worry, anxiety etc. Your feelings are there to show you what your thinking is doing. Notice today anytime your mood changes (for good or for bad) and immediately check what you were thinking about. You will very quickly see that it is your thoughts that are making your feelings. Instantly switch into what you can see, hear, feel, taste and smell in your immediate environment. Now you have accessed the other part of your mind, the aware mind, and watch how naturally good you feel then

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Stress Management

A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: “How heavy is this glass of water?”
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.”
It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down! -author unknown.

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Negative Thinking & Mindfulness

Unhappiness is the result of negative feelings which come from negative thinking. This can then result in negative behaviour. For example someone in work does something to offend/upset you. You deal with it in that moment but later driving home you begin to replay the event in your head, what you should/shouldn’t have said/ what they should/shouldn’t have said or done……..At this point it is not the situation that is causing your upset, you are actually doing it to yourself with your own thoughts. Bad enough to have the upset once in the day, why keep doing it to yourself again with your own thoughts? Instead practice Mindfulness, bring yourself back into the present moment by using your five senses.

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Mindfulness and Relationships

Remember your thoughts cannot think themselves, you have to keep feeding them your attention to hold them in place. Whatever you focus on grows. You are the boss of your thoughts, so decide right now what you are going to think about for the rest of the day. Why not focus on all the good things you have in life or focus on all the good qualities of people in your life. No need to pay attention to any of their bad points, too many thoughts have already gone onto their bad points. Put the same focus onto their good points and watch that relationship quickly transform.

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